Feeling down can help us identify what is wrong and motivate us to seek change.  Being uncomfortable can be a crucial part of transformation.   But sometimes we can have a hard time identifying a feeling.  I know I do sometimes.  I recently learned something about myself.  I’m more in my head then in touch with my physical body.  So I started paying attention to my physical responses.  For example, when I’m mad sometimes my jaw feels tense.  This is a sign of anger.  Once I identify that sign, I then think of what behavior caused the emotion I am feeling.  I once read a tip about making a list of pros and cons to what just happened.  This enables you to see clearly what works and what doesn’t work and then you avoid certain things or keep doing what works.  I think that is a great idea because clarity can propel forward action.  I am a big believer in putting pen to paper on anything you want to change in your life.  There is something about the intention that goes behind this process.  In my opinion it starts to move stagnant energy.  Another practice I recently started doing and have already seen some positive results from is “imagine a redo”.  So imagine a situation that didn’t go as well as you planned.  It could have been a client meeting or a conversation with a loved one.  Then redo the situation over again in your mind but this time with exactly the way you wanted it to go.  I’ve noticed that when I do this it helps me identify what I would have done differently and in a way it changes the energy around it…usually for the better!  And PLEASE...always remember to be compassionate with yourself!  A collegue came to me recently about a mistake he made on an email to a client.  He was so hard on himself.  I told him to say to himself exactly what he would have said to a friend or even a child.  Why?  Because we wouldn’t dismiss or blame them.  We would listen and be sympathetic.  We should treat ourselves with that same compassion.  The more we become our own best friends the more our lives expand.  We are all human and I always say we live and learn.  Practices like these help me feel even more confident and capable of mastering what life is going to throw my way.